The time I was raped by a colleague

A few months after starting working here I was raped by a colleague.

It was violent and terrifying. I was very young. I did not want to speak to anyone as I was so scared but after my injuries healed I chose to speak out and after several months he lost his job.

I am happy not to work next to him but I have been offered no support. It hurts to work by his office.

I hoped to be a politician one day but I have no more energy. No confidence to even speak some days. We work hard in committees and plenary to keep this incredible House working so well.

 Don’t forget about us.

We are still hurting.

The time I had to lock my office door for protection (Part 2)

Part 2

Years later I was still working at the European Parliament, this time for another MEP. As the local assistant was also quite well known in my local political party- I chose not to tell anyone about what happened, as I was young and scared. I had put the whole experience behind me when one day I was working alone in my office when I received a message from a number I did not recognise.

“Hi, this is XXXXX (local assistant). How are you? I am visiting the European Parliament and was wondering if you wanted to have a coffee.”

I was paralyzed with fear.
A few minutes later my phone rings again.

“I know you saw my message 🙂 Where are you?”
Again, I did not reply.

Suddenly my phone started to ring. He was calling me.
I didn’t answer, so he called me again and again.

I was so scared I could not move. I remember being stuck, frozen at my desk being paralyzed with fear.

All of a sudden I heard footsteps at the end of the corridor, and call me paranoid but I decided to quickly lock the office door.

As I sat back down at my desk, I heard three knocks on my office door. A silence. He tried to open the door unsuccessfully. More knocking.

Then he called out my name. “I know you’re in there” I heard him say with a low chuckle.
I did not call out back.
I did not move.

Finally, he left and after about 5 minutes texted me and said “Waiting for that coffee ;)”

The time I had to lock my office door for protection (Part 1)

Part 1

In March 2013 my boss asked me to help her compile an online newsletter and asked me to collaborate on the project with a local assistant.

Suddenly the local assistant sent the whole office an email asking them for their personal address books in order to include their contact’s email addresses into the newsletter database.

Since I knew this could breach data protection law, I called up the local assistant to let him know. His reply?

“Don’t worry- if we end up getting arrested at least we will be locked up together and I can think of a number of things I would like to do to you while we are locked up…”

He then proceeded to try to tell me some of the things he was thinking about.
I cut and avoided ever having to speak to him on the telephone again.

The time he was excited by my lactating 

I was on mission abroad accompanying an official EP delegation.

I was breastfeeding at that time, which sometimes results in uncomfortable situations, such as milk spots.

I was going back to my official hotel room after the day and got stuck alone with an MEP in the elevator.

He approached me, touched my breast and asked whether he could “suck my tits”.

I was terrified, went out and received follow up suggestive messages during the mission.

I never took the elevator on my own, checked three times whether my door was locked and stuck to my fellow colleagues for the rest of the days.

I went back and never disclosed the information to anyone, fearing for my contract. That was some years ago.

 This MEP is still in office .